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Tom and Tillie

On Saturday, Sept. 6, the Douglasses will be gathering for a family reunion in Silver Spring, Maryland.  It got me and my brother JD thinking about a place we had visited as children—the home of Tom and Tillie.  It’s where my dad lived from the time he was born until he was a teenager.  I have pretty strong memories of the place and of Tom and Tillie, and I emailed with JD and talked to my dad, Paul, Jr., this weekend to hear their memories and to get details right.

A preface: I love the names.  Tillie’s a good one, especially when you say “Tom and Tillie.”  Her real name was Leoma Carson (no one seems to know where the name Tillie came from).  Tom’s mother’s name was Ola Edna but was known simply as Mom.  There was Big Gene and Little Gene and Eugene.  Paul and Pauline.  Tom’s sister, Mary Frances, married a guy named Rivers.  And the middle name of my dad and his dad?  Manuel.  No idea about the story behind that.  My mom’s family has some outstanding names as well, but that will wait for another blog.

Tom was my dad’s uncle.  He and Tillie had two kids, Jack and Gene (this was Little Gene).  They, along with Mom, lived in a white clapboard house in Clarksburg, West Virginia on 14th Street, just off West Virginia Avenue.  In addition, Paul and Pauline and their kids lived at the house in a basement apartment.



I had remembered the house as some grand place.  Yet several years ago when I took my dad to his 60th high school reunion, we drove by and I was astounded by how modest it seemed compared to my memory.

Paul and Pauline had a tumultuous relationship.  They had married young, had two sons—my dad, who’s known as Bud, and Donald, and divorced when my dad was about 10.  They each remarried, and the boys lived for a short time with Paul and his second wife before moving back to Tom and Tillie’s.  Paul and Pauline divorced their second spouses after just a few months and remarried each other. 

Bud, Don, Jack and Gene were all very close.  After high school my dad and Jack, who were the same age and were in the same class at school, joined the Navy and were in boot camp together at Naval Station Great Lakes in Illinois.  Occasionally they were stationed close to one another, at one time near Washington, D.C., and later in Hampden Roads, Virginia.  My dad served on the U.S.S. Amphion (AR13), an auxiliary repair ship that spent time in New York Harbor and Hampden Roads.  He didn’t get to see much of the world, but he recalled that liberty in New York wasn’t half bad.  Don and Gene also joined the Navy and served together on the aircraft carrier U.S.S. Coral Sea (CV43). 

I remember visiting Tom and Tillie when I was a little kid.  They were characters and I really liked them.  Tom would make me laugh by lifting up his undershirt and extending out his ample stomach, and I would do the same.  Tillie was pretty animated and had a high-pitched, raspy voice, and she and Tom could get into it pretty good, but it always seemed to be in a good-natured way.

Tom and Paul, Sr. worked at the Hazel-Atlas glass factory, the largest employer in Clarksburg.  They worked eight-hour shifts that varied weekly—day, evening or graveyard.  The women worked too, but only six-hour shifts, which also varied, so there was constant coming and going.  Mom was the designated cook and she was always cooking.  In fact, as far as I knew, she never left the kitchen.  She cooked enormous meals, with more side dishes than you can imagine.  I think I got my love of heart-stopping breakfasts from the spreads she and Tillie would prepare—heaps of eggs, biscuits, sausage, gravy, potatoes, pancakes. 

The men used to play bridge after work in the living room on a big circular table.  Tom and Paul played with men they had grown up with since grade school.  My dad remembers sometimes they would start playing at night and would still be at it the next morning when he was heading off for school.

The basement apartment my dad grew up in was a magical place for me.  In the years our family would visit Tom and Tillie, either at Christmas or Thanksgiving, nobody was living in it.  Above the apartment was a small room that had been added to the house, behind the kitchen.  When we stayed at the house, my brother and I would sleep in that room and spy on the men who would be playing cards below.   I remember one time being in the apartment while the men were playing and one of them asked me to go to the corner store to pick up cigarettes for him.  “Just tell him who sent you,” he said.  It wasn’t a big deal.

The apartment opened into a large vegetable garden behind the house.  Tom and Tillie would can vegetables, as I suppose most people did in the era of “victory” gardens, and would store the jars in an unfinished cellar with a dirt floor that was next to the apartment.  My dad loved bringing home jars of Tillie’s peppers and tomatoes.  I didn’t appreciate them as a kid but I would probably love them now.

In addition to bridge, the men would play pinochle, usually at the firehouse.  They played “king of the mountain,” where two teams would play until one team was eliminated.  Then another twosome would try to unseat the kings.  In the Navy my dad and Jack had learned pinochle and thought they were pretty accomplished.  One night while Tom, Tillie, Paul and Pauline were vacationing in Virginia Beach, the boys took on Paul, Sr. and Tom and got their clocks cleaned in a humiliating loss.  My dad said that knocked them down a peg or two.  He also played three-hand cut-throat pinochle, where the bidder played against the other two, with whoever was around: Rivers, Tom, Don or his dad. 

My dad doesn’t talk much about the time when his parents were splitting up and he and Donald were left being raised by their aunt and uncle and Mom.  I’m sure it was a confusing, punishing time for them. 

Still, they lived in a home with people who cared for them.  The four boys bonded as brothers and I’m sure that helped them get through trying times.  And the house on 14th Street, grand or not, stood as a barrier against the crashing turmoil of an otherwise unmoored childhood.


Copyright ©2014 by David Douglass

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